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My Wife, the Pole Dancer: Why Jealousy is a Party Crasher (and How to Support Her!)

My Wife, the Pole Dancer: Why Jealousy is a Party Crasher (and How to Support Her!)
Written by Vertical Wise

Pole dancing isn’t just about physical strength, it’s about empowerment and self-expression. Here’s how to be your wife’s rock, not a jealous lump of coal, as she embraces this incredible art form.

So, your wife’s a pole dancer. Whoa, that’s pretty cool, right? Hold on, before your mind conjures up images of smoky nightclubs and suggestive outfits, let’s rewind. Pole dancing has completely transformed in recent years, becoming a respected fitness discipline and a powerful form of artistic expression.

Now, it’s natural to have some initial questions. Maybe a flicker of jealousy sparks up, or you worry about how this new passion might impact your relationship. But fear not, my friend! This article is here to be your guide, helping you navigate this exciting turn of events and become your wife’s biggest cheerleader.

Ditch the Jealousy, Embrace the Strength!

Let’s be honest, jealousy is a total party crasher. It clouds your judgment, fuels insecurity, and puts a damper on your wife’s enjoyment. But here’s the thing: her passion for pole dancing has nothing to do with you. It’s about her, her strength, her desire to explore a new art form, and maybe even push her physical boundaries.

Think about it: wouldn’t you be proud of her for tackling a new challenge? Pole dancing is no walk in the park. It requires immense strength, flexibility, and determination. Imagine how incredible she’ll feel conquering those first inverts or nailing a graceful spin. Support her journey, and you’ll witness a whole new side of your wife, a confident and empowered woman.

Plus, a little secret? Confidence is sexy. Seeing your wife embrace her body and celebrate her strength will be way more attractive than any fleeting pang of jealousy.

Communication is Key: Setting Boundaries and Having Open Talks

Okay, so jealousy is out. But what about boundaries? Here’s where communication comes in. Talk to your wife about her classes, her goals, and how her newfound passion might fit into your lives.

  • Is pole dancing a fitness activity or a performance art for her? Knowing her intentions will help you understand her level of comfort with potentially revealing outfits or performances.
  • Does she want to keep it private or share it with you? Maybe she’d love for you to watch her class sometime, or perhaps she prefers to keep it her own space.
  • Are there any public performances she might participate in? Discuss how comfortable you are with that beforehand and set expectations together.

Open communication is the foundation of any strong relationship. By talking things through, you can establish healthy boundaries that respect both your needs and hers.

How to Be Her Pole Dancing Champion: Support in Action!

Alright, you’re on board! Now, how can you actually support your pole dancer wife? Here are a few ways to be her champion:

  • Be her cheerleader! Ask her about her classes, celebrate her achievements, and be her biggest hype man.
  • Offer practical support. Help her with childcare if she needs it for class time, or cook her a healthy pre-workout meal.
  • Be her hype man (part two)! If she’s comfortable with it, accompany her to performances or competitions. Seeing you in the audience will be a huge confidence boost.
  • Do some research! Learn about the different styles of pole dancing, the impressive conditioning required, and the amazing pole dance community. Understanding her passion will deepen your connection.

Remember, the most important thing is to be supportive and encouraging. Your wife’s newfound passion for pole dancing is a chance for her to grow and express herself. By being her rock, you’ll not only strengthen your relationship but also witness her blossom in a whole new way.


Feeling a little jealous of your wife’s newfound strength and confidence? You’re not alone! Confess your (lighthearted) insecurities in the comments!

About the author

Vertical Wise

Vertical Wise is an international website dedicated to supporting and promoting the world of pole dancing and aerial fitness. Our mission is to spread awareness, share knowledge, and celebrate the incredible artistry and athleticism of these disciplines. Join us as we connect enthusiasts, athletes, and professionals from around the globe, fostering a vibrant community that inspires and empowers individuals to reach new heights in their fitness journey.

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